Dear 16 year old me,
Hi! Things are probably a little complicated right now. Please sit, and take some time to read a little advice I have for you from my place of perspective.
Stress less over your grades.
Yes, they are important, but I promise it isn’t worth the stress you put yourself under. Do your best, and know that is enough. Don’t stay up until all hours trying to make it perfect. Go do more with friends.
Speaking of which…
Real friends don’t regularly leave you out of plans.
And a real best friend doesn’t let them. You have friends outside of your main group, so make some plans with them and have fun.
Tell your mom what goes on at school.
That’s her territory too, and maybe she’ll have some ideas for you. You aren’t on your own yet, take advantage of that fact.
Just do the damn chores she asks you to do.
Doing housework will never get easier, and it will make you a little more prepared for dealing with your own place.
You are right to trust your gut.
It rarely leads you wrong. You will find you are spot on about people most of the time, and really accurate in other situations too.
You are not fat, and it wouldn’t be the end of the world if you were.
Keep moving like you do, eat what makes you feel good, and it will be fine. What your body can do is much more important than what it looks like, and you need to appreciate it.
Write down those recipes from your grandmas.
Anything you like, get that recipe for later. Sure, they can make it now, but you never know if you will want to make it much later on.
Guilt trips say more about the person doling them out than about you.
Don’t let them get to you. If you feel confident in your choices, let anybody else’s opinion roll off your back.
I think that is about all that applies for now. Have fun these last years of high school, and don’t worry. You will have very few regrets.